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Dead molester, do I keep mouth shut or what?

Q: The person who molested me passed away just recently. He made my childhood and youth a living hell. In addition to the nights: you’re such a good boy, and spendt the days to terrorize my mother psychologically and nigths with physical violence against her. He managed to break her…(...)

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My story

Q: My question is if I should seek help? I’ve beenr eading some of the posts here, it helps reading what others have experienced. As for myself, I was molested by an older “pal” when I was around 6 years old. This went of for at least one year. I…(...)

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From a mother

Q: My son told me after all these years, he’s 19 now, that he was subjected to sexual abuse from when he was 7 til 12 years old. This Christmas was a nightmare. We’ve reported to the police and gotten a lawyer to help us in this case. But I…(...)

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Things suggesting that I’ve been molested

Q: I’m a 28 year old man, who recently have begun to remember happenings from my childhood. Things suggesting that I’ve been molested. I’ve read here that some have had good use of residental care. What does it mean? I’m wondering if it’s something that could fit me, because I…(...)

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Sexually abused by my mother

Q: I was sexually abused by my mother when I was a boy. Through all my life, I’ve had problems to find a balance in relation to women. I want to be in a relationship, but feeling the¬†ambivalence between¬† girlfriend vs mother. I don’t wish that my girlfriend to become…(...)

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I almost can’t take it anymore

Q: I was molested when I was 13-14 years old. The feeling always linger, but I’ve managed to think about something else and do other things, like buying a lot of weird stuff, which has put a dent on my economy. I almost can’t take it anymore now, and I…(...)

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My sibling won’t believe me

Q: I’m a 60 year old man. My father molested me when I was a little boy. He died several years ago. My younger sisters refuse to believe that our father molested me and don’t want to have anything to do with me. What can I do to establish a…(...)

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Smart first step?

Q: I was subjected to sexual abuse in my childhood. Now I’m and adult and still ahven’t sought any for of help, but I often think that I shuold do it. What would you advise me to do, as a first step?   A: Hi and thank you for the…(...)

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Self harm – sexual behaviour

Q: I’m wondering if it’s just a coinsidence that men who’ve been “severely” sexually abused as a child get behavioral problems as an adult? If they get aroused by sadism, feel pain, be humiliated or sexually abused if it’s related to their “childhood”? Eagerly awaiting your answer. Regards A A:…(...)

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Molested at Helgelands Kysten

Q: We were several young boys who were molesetd by a homosexual paedofile male. Most of them are having and have had great difficulties as an adult. Two of them are dead, this is far too early. I don’t know if I’ve gotten any damage from it, but I have…(...)

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Pocket Man, Catholic priests etc. Must we talk about these things?

Q: I think there’s a lot of focus on abuse now days. Pocket Man, Catholic priests etc. Must we talk about these things? A: This is an issue we’ll never get rid of. There will always be children who are deprives of their dignity. But as adults, it is our…(...)

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I know that I’m heterosexual

Q: I know I’m heterosexual, but why does my body fail me when I sleep with men? A: It’s easy for an adult to “push the right buttons” in a bubbly boy’s body. This is also something the abuser know how to exploit to justify their selfishness. Regards Ronny(...)

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I have thoughts and fantasies that scare me

Q: I have thoughts and fantasies that scares me. Just think about if other poeple could see how I am on the inside. Why do I feel like a monster? A: We are many who have experiences things during growing up that only adults should choose or not. Equality is…(...)

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Dreading to call a support center

Q: I’m dreading to call a center. I’m not sure if it’s right for me. What should I expect? A: Those who work at the centers in Norway have knowledge and experience with all forms of late effects and traumas. They know that different forms of abuse, large or small,…(...)

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17 year old boy

Q: I’m a 17 year old boy who’s been sexually abused by a family member. I haven’t told anyone, about what happened when I was 12 years old. My days are characterized by anger, frustration and drugs. How can I make my everydays better, and who can I talk to?…(...)

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