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Abuse from stepfather

Q: Hi. I’m a 33 year old man who has lived with sexual abuse by my stepfather from the age of 9 til 30 years old. My situation is a bit special in that it’s been going on for so long, without me being able to get out of this…...

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What and when does it count as abuse?

Q: I’ve been experiencing different things with older boys from when I was 7 years old. I’m talking about boys 6-7 years older than me. It started when I as a 7 years old had to watch an older boy masturbate and another time I had to watch with his…...

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I feel some kind of shame

Q: Hi! I’ve written to you before, because I was subjected to sexual abuse from when I was 13-16 + when I was 19 years old, I was unfortunately victim of other boys/men then… I feel some kind of shame. Not interested in sex etc. Is it normal? Boy 23.5…...

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Steeled anxiety

Q: Man in the middle of life, sexually assaulted by a male family friend in early childhood. Full penetration, oralsex and emotional chaos for five years. I didn’t know what pedophilia was. A little boy thought a full grown man was his boyfriend. The offender was my secret, which I…...

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Molested by teacher in middle school

Molested by teacher in middle school Q: I was molested by my male homeroom teacher several times in middle school. I’ve repressed this for many years, but I met him again for the first time at a 20 years anniversary class reunion party for middle school, and have been struggling…...

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Abuse

Q: Hi! I’ve been subjected to rape, abuse and such for many years. I told this to my doctor. He denies that health personnel commit abuse. I was raped by someone in the psychiatry ward. It’s been reported, but it’s words against words. :/ I’m wondering who I can talk…...

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What is abuse?

Q: My husband met a woman in a music group. She was stuck on him, praised him and complimented him. Suddenly everything was woeful, she had a painful childhood and marriage and needed a lot of help in the house. He was about to leave one night and she kissed…...

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Molested during childhood and as an adult

Q: Hi, I’m struggling with shame and guilt because I was molested by my godfather in my childhood, both oral- and analsex, I’m struggling and it bothers me daily. Then I was abused orally and analy by a colleague. Two failed marriages, have 5 children, feel unsuccessful, am on sick…...

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Choosing a support-center

Q: I live outside Oslo, but can I chose going to the center in Oslo as I feel the offer in Buskerud is insufficient? A: Hi and thanks for the e-mail. Yes you can and I recommend SSMM, which is exclusively for men. It’s located at Storgata in Oslo and…...

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What do I do next?

Q: I’m sitting among acquaintances and having a conversation about abuse in the family and during childhood. I would like to go further with the subject. It’s possible that I’ve been subjected to sexual abuse. How would you consult me further? A: Hi and thank you for the e-mail! Many…...

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