Questions & Answers

Q: How is it possible to get rid of the guilt, shame, angst, fear, depression, flashbacks, nightmares, etc? I was subjected to sexual abuse for 3 years, from when I was 10-13 years old. There were 3 boys who were molesting me. One of them was 3 years older, the…(...)

Q: I’m a 40 year old male. I’ve been struggling in 24 years after what I was put through, and I don’t know who the molester was. I’ve been told all tehse years I can’t file a repost because I do not know who the molester was, is this true?…(...)

Q: Hi, I need some advice regarding something. I’ve just befriended this great guy who experienced a lot of pain when growin up. He was emotionally abused by his mother and sexually abused by his sister. He takes initiative for physical closeness when we meet, after talking for a while…(...)

Q: I am a 37 year old man and having struggles with sex. I’ve always been sexually aggressive since I became sexually active. I’ve had many partners and been proud of that I am what I call a “giver” in the act. I’ve always secured my partners satisfaction before my…(...)

Q: Hi – I’ve known about your website for a while – but today I saw the two of you on TV2. First of all I’ve only good things to say about the initiative you’ve taken. I’m writing you because I’m wondering if it’s possible to be “finished” with having…(...)

Q: I was abused as a child, but fortunately received help with the psyche, but I am struggling to become friends with males, I kind of don’t know what to do or say. I am skeptical towards men and having difficulties trusting them. How can I get over this fear?…(...)

Q: Hi. I’m a 33 year old man who has lived with sexual abuse by my stepfather from the age of 9 til 30 years old. My situation is a bit special in that it’s been going on for so long, without me being able to get out of this…(...)

Q: I’ve been experiencing different things with older boys from when I was 7 years old. I’m talking about boys 6-7 years older than me. It started when I as a 7 years old had to watch an older boy masturbate and another time I had to watch with his…(...)

Q: Hi! I’ve written to you before, because I was subjected to sexual abuse from when I was 13-16 + when I was 19 years old, I was unfortunately victim of other boys/men then… I feel some kind of shame. Not interested in sex etc. Is it normal? Boy 23.5…(...)

Q: Man in the middle of life, sexually assaulted by a male family friend in early childhood. Full penetration, oralsex and emotional chaos for five years. I didn’t know what pedophilia was. A little boy thought a full grown man was his boyfriend. The offender was my secret, which I…(...)

Molested by teacher in middle school Q: I was molested by my male homeroom teacher several times in middle school. I’ve repressed this for many years, but I met him again for the first time at a 20 years anniversary class reunion party for middle school, and have been struggling…(...)

Q: Hi! I’ve been subjected to rape, abuse and such for many years. I told this to my doctor. He denies that health personnel commit abuse. I was raped by someone in the psychiatry ward. It’s been reported, but it’s words against words. :/ I’m wondering who I can talk…(...)

Q: My husband met a woman in a music group. She was stuck on him, praised him and complimented him. Suddenly everything was woeful, she had a painful childhood and marriage and needed a lot of help in the house. He was about to leave one night and she kissed…(...)

Q: Hi, I’m struggling with shame and guilt because I was molested by my godfather in my childhood, both oral- and analsex, I’m struggling and it bothers me daily. Then I was abused orally and analy by a colleague. Two failed marriages, have 5 children, feel unsuccessful, am on sick…(...)

Q: I live outside Oslo, but can I chose going to the center in Oslo as I feel the offer in Buskerud is insufficient? A: Hi and thanks for the e-mail. Yes you can and I recommend SSMM, which is exclusively for men. It’s located at Storgata in Oslo and…(...)